I finally started taking some medications. Iโm not quite crazy as far as I know, but I am trying to deal with things better. I went on a med and it has really kicked my ass coming back off of it. Iโm switching over to another for the, or at least what I, believe to be the major underlying cause. Only I learned that it is EXPENSIVE! Like really expensive. But if it helps it should be worth it. And thank god for GoodRX. I donโt know what the point of insurance is.
I just finished reading/ listening to the book โYou are a badassโ by Jen Sincero and I think she has some validity in the things that she says. She basically says to push for your goals, change the way you think and live like you want to live. I think Iโm somewhat doing that and that I do push for things I want. But I also think Iโm failing a little bit in other ways.
The meds are really messing with me mentally though. Iโm irritable and just….. not ok. Lol. It lasts up to 3 weeks. Which is fine I guess. Gives me some time to swallow the cost of the other pill I will likely need to be on.
Anyways. Focus lately has been on privacy because I want to change the field that Iโm going into a bit. Itโs still a work in progress but I have to the end of the month to make a decision. I think I have made one already though.
For some crazy ass reason Iโm getting back in the damn mindset that I want to find a boyfriend and a husband. And Iโm not saying I wonโt get those things, but thereโs only so much I can do in my life to actually get a man to want me of his own accord. I canโt be the only one that puts in my all to have 1/4 of someone else invested. It wears on me a bit. And I mean overall it just sucks. I was talking to a hookup I met and things were ok…. I kept trying to talk in ways of commitment and he would correct them with words of sex. Idk. I guess if someone really likes me, I will know it. In my head, I shouldnโt have to be the one to put forth all of the efforts. But I think that is how all gay men think… they shouldnโt have to put in all the work. They should just be swept off their feet. If they arenโt, then itโs not meant to be. But it isnโt realistic. Being gay really sucks sometimes. Sex only with young guys.
Just had a moment. Crying a bit. Thinking about no matter what stage of my life there just hasnโt been a guy into me. It hurts. Kinda. I think Iโm fine. I have good… and bad… qualities. I donโt see a lot of reasons why someone shouldnโt like me tbh. Yet thatโs what has happened so far in my life. Just being single. Then if I find anything with the smallest taste of potential, it doesnโt turn into anything.
As per Jen Sincero though, words of affirmation:
I am good enough. I am awesome. I am smart. I am driven and motivated. I am handsome. And I do happen to believe ALL of those things!!! I always have. I donโt think Iโm not worth dating. And when dating, I donโt think I am the best option out there for anyone, but Iโm not a bad one either. The problem comes though that most people donโt see the other good in me.
This isnโt the world that i was hoping for initially. It isnโt what I dreamt of as a kid. Iโm not saying what I dreamt of as a kid was necessarily on par with how the world really is, but I did dream of falling in love; having a boyfriend; a husband… growing together. It just doesnโt seem like it should be THAT complicated. But reverse side, if I had that, would I be stuck somewhere or would we be moving around like I have done? I donโt think I would have been happy living in my home state. But then again, Iโm not really happy here, alone, either. Lol. Funny how that works out. Iโm not unhappy. Just would be funnier to do this with someone instead of solo.